I have found that people struggling to find a healthy work/life balance also struggle with setting boundaries. Each time you allow someone to do or say something that makes you uncomfortable, you weaken your boundaries. Examples of poor boundaries include being available for work 24/7, maintaining a friendship that is emotionally draining, each time you don't speak up for yourself when a family member puts you down.
Setting boundaries takes patience, but like any new skill can be achieved with practice. Let's start small. You are valuable and your time and feelings matter. Here are a few suggestions to start settings boundaries today:
1. Turn off your phone at 9pm. Just do it.
2. If possible, carve out 2 days per week in which you are not available for work.
3. Spend time with people who bring you joy.
4. Say "no". You don't have to give a reason or go on and on explaining. Just say "no".
5. Try saying "I know you would not intentionally hurt me, but it bothers me when you say that".
Three Reasons To Meditate
Feeling overwhelmed? Feel like your contemporaries have it together but you are lagging behind? As we get older our responsibilities become more and more. It becomes difficult to strike a balance between things that we have to do and things that we want to do. Carving out time for yourself becomes more and more important. But self care does not have to be mind blowing. It doesn’t have to be booking a day at the spa. Or getting away for the weekend. Taking a few minutes each day to sit in quiet can produce life improving benefits. Meditation doesn’t have to be some moment where you’re sitting quietly for an hour with a blank mind. It is just giving yourself time to focus on the present and being mindful. Sitting quietly and not worrying about tomorrow or regretting yesterday. A simple way to begin meditation is to find an object or a photo that brings you peace. For instance a photo of your family. Look at the photo, then close your eyes and try to keep the image in your focus. As soon as you lose focus, stop. You may start with being able to focus for 30 seconds. Keep going and soon you may be able to focus for several minutes. It’s that simple.
Taking time to meditate has many benefits.
How do you know when you are lacking balance?
I am a mental health therapist practicing in Henderson, NV. I have found that most of the people that I work with have lost themselves on the road to success. A key component of my treatment approach is assisting people in rediscovering their passions and restoring balance to their lives. This blog contains slivers of wisdom that I continue to discover while assisting people become mentally fit.