As school begins this Fall, our focus is often on making sure homework gets done and getting everyone out of bed on time. But, it’s also a good time to reinforce healthy habits. Academic success of children and adolescents is strongly tied to their health. The fact is that healthy students are better learners. Here are some tips to help maintain your child’s health. These are in addition to speaking with your primary care provider regularly and attending annual physicals.
These tips can help you and your children begin the new school year with a focus on health. Studies show that healthy children get better grades, attend school more often and behave better in class. There are many ways to improve your children’s health, but remember to address any health concerns with your primary care provider.
Remember the 80’s hip hop song “Parents Just Don’t Understand” by DJ Jazzy Jeff & The Fresh Prince? Are we now, those parents? As our children enter adolescence and grow into teenagers this often becomes their mantra. It is universal that children eventually begin to separate from their parents as they individuate and with that comes feelings that they are different than others and their feelings are unique. How do you maintain your relationship with your children as they grow and become more and more independant? Often times learning to simply validate a child’s feelings helps him or her feel like you understand what he or she is going through. There is no longer a need for you to help fix their problems, just a desire to feel heard.
Emotional invalidation is when a person's thoughts and feelings are rejected, ignored, or judged. When a child expresses worry or anxiety and a parent responds with “Don’t worry about it” or “It will be fine” we are inadvertently invalidating our child’s feelings. Invalidation can have a negative impact over time and hurts a child’s ability to understand and regulate their own emotions. Learning how to help your children with their own emotional experiences has positive lasting effects.
I’d like to offer four strategies to improve your connection with your child and to validate his or her feelings and experiences. These strategies are also called O.A.R.S. and are from Motivational Interviewing, which is a client centered counseling approach that prepares people for change.
As I continue to explore managing the mental load with my clients, I have noticed that there has been some uprising with regards to finding balance. I saw a video blogger take a plate for each thing she manages as a wife and mother and then smash each plate in an expression to show that balance cannot be achieved. I read an account from another blogger who wrote that there is no such thing as balance. I disagree. For myself and those who come to me for help, balance doesn’t mean perfectly managing life’s obligations. It doesn’t mean that you are not torn between work and home. Balance means that you are managing all the hats that you wear throughout the day without crying yourself to sleep! You are finding snippets of time for yourself and caring for you while also meeting household and professional expectations.
How do we strike that balance? It’s not perfect and not always symmetrical, but striking balance can be simple. Here are 4 strategies that you can implement this month that will help you reduce stress and feel more at ease.
I am a mental health therapist practicing in Henderson, NV. I have found that most of the people that I work with have lost themselves on the road to success. A key component of my treatment approach is assisting people in rediscovering their passions and restoring balance to their lives. This blog contains slivers of wisdom that I continue to discover while assisting people become mentally fit.