Children grow at different rates at different times. They, just like adults, come in all different shapes and sizes. What can parents do if they believe that their child’s weight is negatively impacting his or her health. First, don't blame the child and expect them to take full responsibility. Dr. Yoni Freedhoff is an obesity expert, author of The Diet Fix and video blogger of the YouTube channel The Diet Fix: Why Diets Fail and How to Make Yours Work, says that talking with your child about his or her weight is like “lecturing passengers about where a car is going”. Adults struggle with weight loss and it is unrealistic to expect a child to manage their own diet. Parents are the ones that are responsible and the ones that need to make the changes. A long term solution is for parents and families as a whole to live a healthy lifestyle.
Do you remember a time before human beings had cell phones permanently attached to their hands? I struggle to recall. I am guilty of having my phone on my person at all times. If I forget my phone, I admit to feeling a little anxious. Our phones provide incredibly helpful technology. I can order birthday presents, my groceries, schedule clients, pay bills, all from a tiny device in the palm of my hand. But there is a downside to all of this convenience. We lose our ability to be creative, we read less and we are spending less time looking into the faces of those around us. Staring at our screen and checking out our friend's vacation photos is not productive. We have gaps of time in our lives that has been wasted by mindlessly searching social media.
Mindlessness is not mindfulness. Mindfulness can reduce stress, improve sleep and even improve our brain functioning. We claim to not have time for self-improvement. We don’t have time to learn how to meditate, but we spend countless hours on our phones accomplishing nothing. Over the next week, I encourage you to begin leaving your phone somewhere other than your hands when you are at home and focu your energy on a mindful activity that offers heaps of mind and body benefits. Try coloring instead. Simply coloring on a blank page, a coloring sheet or even in an adult coloring book offers you an opportunity to focus on the now. While coloring you are not thinking about yesterday or tomorrow’s to-do list. You are just coloring. And at the end you have created something, which brings on a sense of accomplishment. This easy and inexpensive activity can help begin your journey to a more mindful existence.
I often talk about setting emotional boundaries in relationships. What about boundaries for yourself? Is your self-talk often negative or do you disparage yourself for your faults? I recommend setting boundaries that stop you from tearing yourself apart and begin the road to self-acceptance. Self-acceptance begins with self-understanding. All humans are imperfect. We are not all good or all bad. We are a smattering of various talents, faults and strengths that make us all unique. I think of the Serenity Prayer as a guide for self-acceptance. It goes something like: “grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference”. Wow! If we could all do that. It is difficult to accept that we do not have control over everything. It is a struggle to accept our faults and the faults of our loved ones. But it is possible.
Here are a few tips that will help you begin your journey toward self-acceptance.
Finding self-acceptance can be a long process, but you are worth it!
Ahh. Fall. You made it through the heat of summer, got the kids off to another year of school and now you can luxuriate in a sweater and sip on a spiced latte. Not quite. Fall brings on homework, tests, sports practice, sports games, school Halloween Parties, Trunk or Treats, birthday parties, you get the idea. This time of year I find that my client’s plates become full with errands, to-do lists and social engagements on top of the already loaded schedule. First, calm down. You will get through this just like you get through everything else that life throws at you. Second, read on for a few tips that will help support you through this busy season.
The crisp air of fall and the changing of the leaves go by quickly before winter comes calling with it’s frigid air. Remember to enjoy this time with your family as it is fleeting. Take advantage of the simple things and don’t be so hard on yourself. You can do this!
Trauma takes many forms but simply put it is when we experience an event in which we perceive our life to be threatened or we witness such an event. Everyone reacts to trauma differently. In our more recent history, Americans have increasingly been exposed to traumatic events in the form of mass shootings. Here in Las Vegas, we are still healing from the massacre at the Route 91 Harvest Festival in October of 2017. All of us, here in the Las Vegas Valley, have been personally impacted by this horrific tragedy. How do we heal? How do we move forward?
I am a mental health therapist practicing in Henderson, NV. I have found that most of the people that I work with have lost themselves on the road to success. A key component of my treatment approach is assisting people in rediscovering their passions and restoring balance to their lives. This blog contains slivers of wisdom that I continue to discover while assisting people become mentally fit.