You did what you thought you were supposed to do. You studied hard in school, got a job, bought a house, but instead of relishing in your accomplishments, you find that you are not happy. You may feel like you have not done enough or that you are not good enough, yet. There is a message out there that if you do everything right, then you can have it all. You can balance work, family, friends, life, hobbies and feel great. Can we have it all? What does that even mean?
We are all unique individuals and “having it all” looks different for all of us. It may mean being in a great relationship or having a great job. The more you add to your juggling act, the more difficult it is to manage each day. I discourage my clients to compare themselves and their successes with others. I believe it is more important to take the time to relish in your own accomplishments. Praise yourself for the progress that you have made. Then shift your focus to the present. Let go of yesterday and do not worry so much about tomorrow or next year. Try to live each day as it comes. As you do this you will find that you will not be so preoccupied whether or not you have accumulated “it all” or that you are successfully balancing everything. Focusing on each day allows us to be free of comparison.
Happiness comes from feeling good about yourself and your choices. I encourage you to continue to seek small bits of joy each day. This gives you focus and adds up to a happier life. Joy helps us through tough times and allows us to focus on the good. It helps boost our mood and gives us the energy we need to be there for the important people in our lives.
I am a mental health therapist practicing in Henderson, NV. I have found that most of the people that I work with have lost themselves on the road to success. A key component of my treatment approach is assisting people in rediscovering their passions and restoring balance to their lives. This blog contains slivers of wisdom that I continue to discover while assisting people become mentally fit.