It can be counterintuitive to put yourself first when you have so many people depending on you; however, self-care is critical if you want to be successful at achieving your goals. If you do not fuel your body, emotionally, you may find it hard to cope when life gets stressful. In the mental health world we call the ability to handle life’s changes “coping skills” or “coping strategies”. Coping skills can be as simple as counting to 10 or taking deep breaths. They can also be more time consuming like committing to weekly therapy, getting a regular massage or writing in a journal daily. A coping skill gives you the ability to thrive in adversity or manage stress successfully. Engaging in regular activities that provide you with emotional support helps to fill your cup. You cannot pour from an empty cup, you must fill your cup first. Finding what fills your cup is the first step to developing a system to support yourself emotionally. Here is a quick list of activities that you can engage in regularly that can help you to manage your stress and cope with whatever life throws at you.
Notice that I did not mention watching a movie, binge watching shows or taking a nap. These things just put your stress on hold and they don’t really provide an outlet. In order for something to be a coping skill, I believe that it must be a form of an emotional outlet. Take some time to list out activities that you are willing to engage in regularly. I recommend engaging in coping skills at least weekly if not daily. Regularly filling your cup ensures that you will have the energy to not only help those who rely on you, but also provides you with endurance for the long road ahead.
I am a mental health therapist practicing in Henderson, NV. I have found that most of the people that I work with have lost themselves on the road to success. A key component of my treatment approach is assisting people in rediscovering their passions and restoring balance to their lives. This blog contains slivers of wisdom that I continue to discover while assisting people become mentally fit.